tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post5208103993751359629..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: The Miserys of Guilt and ShameNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-10559290001215550882011-02-16T11:13:02.341-08:002011-02-16T11:13:02.341-08:00There's one useful distinction I know between ...There's one useful distinction I know between guilt and shame: I feel guilt for something I have done; I feel shame for who I am... I do like NellaLou's reminder that remorse is something different. Better still is the make-up--the skillful action taken to make amends for the unskillful one for which I feel remorse. Thanks for bringing up this important and troublesome topic.Peter Clothierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11525159413387378704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-13745076839503558092011-02-16T09:37:17.658-08:002011-02-16T09:37:17.658-08:00I've also had a history of struggle with guilt...I've also had a history of struggle with guilt and shame. And it goes way back in my family - generations worth. In fact, working with both got me interested in considering how we tend to stop with our parents when considering "family of origin" challenges, but actually the thread can be followed back far beyond one's parents. In some ways, this allowed me to soften around Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-85686670638734360912011-02-16T05:51:42.925-08:002011-02-16T05:51:42.925-08:00Shame is something that held me back a great deal ...Shame is something that held me back a great deal in my training as an actor. Body image stuff, persistent habits, and social awkwardness turned into great goliaths and yet my mind was turned away from addressing these matters straightforwardly. Shame turned it all into a story: "I'm not meant for this, they don't want me here, I can't get it right," blah blah blah.Algernonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01698040927871199780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-1744550612036426242011-02-15T11:51:27.393-08:002011-02-15T11:51:27.393-08:00This is really useful to contrast guilt, shame and...This is really useful to contrast guilt, shame and remorse. In my view guilt is the internalization of shame. That is shame being a transgression of social boundaries. Often, especially as children we hear "Shame on you" for some mistake. When this is taken inside we say "Shame on me" to ourselves, this being guilt.<br /><br />The concept of remorse is tied to actual NellaLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07247769132258539996noreply@blogger.com