tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post5886742519157637486..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: The Buddhoblogosphere as Collective PracticeNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-68880222320618253142010-09-24T17:39:21.869-07:002010-09-24T17:39:21.869-07:00Yeah, I started to feel like the debates about eng...Yeah, I started to feel like the debates about engaged Buddhism weren't really about that, but about something else. Fears and insecurities about the future of Buddhism perhaps? I don't know. I said what I said, and then let it drop. That was one case where walking away was helpful.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-82107165321553838522010-09-24T10:44:53.526-07:002010-09-24T10:44:53.526-07:00I thought of something else. I've noticed exc...I thought of something else. I've noticed excess attention and debate to the issue of what activities are "Buddhist" or not, and who gets to define what good Buddhism is or isn't, and pushing back against imagined criticism of one's own "Buddhism." <br /><br />For instance, recent debates about the "socially engaged" stuff.<br /><br />Thomas Paine said Algernonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01698040927871199780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-56885223346603069012010-09-23T18:48:23.122-07:002010-09-23T18:48:23.122-07:00Hey All,
Thanks for the comments.
Petteri, you...Hey All, <br /><br />Thanks for the comments. <br /><br />Petteri, your point about letting go when or after walking away is important. Long held grudges that come out in snarky, digging comments later on is just dragging misery with yourself, and bringing it to others. <br /><br />Kevin, <br /><br />I love the Aikido list. It fits in wonderfully with this discussion. Especially a willingness to Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-89810600244154097072010-09-23T15:32:03.340-07:002010-09-23T15:32:03.340-07:00These are pretty good.
It's good to remember ...These are pretty good.<br /><br />It's good to remember that the other person (who IS a real person, and worth respecting) might not be interested in the same kind of dialogue I want to have, and that's okay. <br /><br />It's the same in "meatspace," the realm of actual face-to-face interaction. Sometimes my wife just wants to relate the events of the day, and no, she doesAlgernonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01698040927871199780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-39625086361547444442010-09-23T12:56:51.810-07:002010-09-23T12:56:51.810-07:00I agree with both your observed wrong ways and pro...I agree with both your observed wrong ways and proposed better ways.<br /><br />They bring to mind a list I'd like to share that I learned through Aikido, although it didn't originate there.<br /><br />"How to harmonize with that which oppresses you.<br />1. Correct your position<br />2. Connect with the other person<br />3. Employ the spirit of yielding"<br /><br />While it maykevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679849282951730576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-8314292680943298532010-09-23T11:40:32.129-07:002010-09-23T11:40:32.129-07:00I think sometimes it's best just to bust a few...I think sometimes it's best just to bust a few heads and get it over with, though. <br /><br />Walking away is one thing. Letting go of whatever it is you walked away from is another thing altogether, and much harder. More often than not, walking away just results in a reprise later on, only with hard feelings all around. Given a choice between seething silently and then letting it bubble up Brikoleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01318706625291447339noreply@blogger.com