tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post64490966384775831..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: Being An Online BuddhaNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-30963549416467818012011-04-17T12:13:21.013-07:002011-04-17T12:13:21.013-07:00One lesson I learned very early in my online life,...One lesson I learned very early in my online life, which began about 15 years ago, is how many people are constrained in their unkind actions by public censure. Once the fear of immediate (or any) retaliation is removed, some of us become a mass of violence, acting with no regard whatsoever for others, and junking any pretence of civility or common courtesy. <br /><br />As I gained experience, Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08522501894058291952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-61182279164982470582011-04-17T11:44:07.401-07:002011-04-17T11:44:07.401-07:00We shouldn't take emotions so seriously. ;)
h...We shouldn't take emotions so seriously. ;)<br /><br />http://youtu.be/srnFf6gTkHwAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-24326077758678669802011-04-15T22:29:39.027-07:002011-04-15T22:29:39.027-07:00"What I'm thinking right now is a piece o..."What I'm thinking right now is a piece of all of this is learning how to read situations, so that you can determine whether a direct approach or an indirect approach (like doing zazen or talking a walk in the woods) is most called for."<br /><br />Yes, I agree. It's all situational. A pattern of going for the jugular every time is certainly wrong. But then so is a pattern of Brikoleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01318706625291447339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-42052933479970282932011-04-15T14:27:56.951-07:002011-04-15T14:27:56.951-07:00Petteri
"So then, the question becomes, wha...Petteri <br /><br />"So then, the question becomes, what to do with that anger? It's one of those red-hot iron balls stuck in your throat. Swallow it, and it'll burn you up inside; try to cough it out, and it'll burn up your throat and somebody else. You have a palette of more or less unattractive choices. Some are clearly more destructive than others, and I'm not at all Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-17383173832889534992011-04-15T14:19:05.889-07:002011-04-15T14:19:05.889-07:00Hi Elle,
I'd say it's been a gradual pro...Hi Elle, <br /><br />I'd say it's been a gradual process for me around working with the stuff I'm talking about in terms anonymity/openness. To me, on of the most important things is to pay attention to motivations and intentions. Even though I share a lot on my blog, there are plenty of things I choose to not write about - or wait to write about until I feel more able to express Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-17874307322593635432011-04-15T13:47:48.104-07:002011-04-15T13:47:48.104-07:00This is the first time (I think) I comment here so...This is the first time (I think) I comment here so... hello. :)<br /><br />In my particular I don't really feel the urge to present myself as "real" to others; and I don't expect the same from others. I respect others intimacies and the rights they have (as well as me) to gradually/naturally open themselves, and to choose to whom they'd do it. I'm not really fond to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-11100813533603508582011-04-15T08:35:39.863-07:002011-04-15T08:35:39.863-07:00I think you've hit on something very significa...I think you've hit on something very significant here. Let me run with it for a bit.<br /><br />Anger is destructive. Therefore, it should be avoided.<br /><br />Logical. Makes sense. And... true.<br /><br />But incomplete.<br /><br />Anger can be avoided, a lot of the time. Thing is, when it is, the question never comes up. Whenever the question comes up, anger has not been avoided: you'Brikoleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01318706625291447339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-64228156603292849002011-04-15T08:23:46.974-07:002011-04-15T08:23:46.974-07:00Petteri,
I think I have been weaving in and out ...Petteri, <br /><br />I think I have been weaving in and out of that territory for a good 3 or 4 years now, ever since an ex-girlfriend and a few others told me they were "concerned" about the ways I dealt with anger and volatile emotions. They were quite right to point out what I was mostly doing - repressing awhile, avoiding, and then blowing was screwed up. <br /><br />I tend to be Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-65569059261152244992011-04-14T22:34:21.659-07:002011-04-14T22:34:21.659-07:00I've been doing some hard thinking about this ...I've been doing some hard thinking about this whole here emotional reaction thing lately. Might be a whole blog post in it even, we'll see. I have a volatile temperament and pick up and reflect emotional affects very easily, and produce my own too, and it's complex territory. It'd be awesome if you could just turn on the metta, karuna, upekkha, and mudita at the drop of a hat, butBrikoleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01318706625291447339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-43266986509783986262011-04-14T16:02:58.280-07:002011-04-14T16:02:58.280-07:00NellaLou,
Yeah, I think there are various degree...NellaLou, <br /><br />Yeah, I think there are various degrees of anonymity. I have a fair amount of basic info. about myself online, but I don't use my full name here - nor have a linking e-mail address. But people can probably find that info fairly easily all the same, given how interlinked my blog and things like Facebook are. <br /><br />When commenting on a few political/social issue Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-72970336596149800332011-04-14T13:24:12.351-07:002011-04-14T13:24:12.351-07:00Nathan, sorry to be spamming to your blog but I do...Nathan, sorry to be spamming to your blog but I don't have an email address for you. I'm trying to start a new world movement for the better called "The Moment of Peace". My goal is to get 1 million people involved in an hour of Mindful Silence.<br /><br />You can read more about it here.<br /><br />http://www.themomentofpeace.com/<br /><br />If you can write about it on your Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-17513980283631493722011-04-14T12:46:21.508-07:002011-04-14T12:46:21.508-07:00There are other reasons for lowering one's per...There are other reasons for lowering one's personal profile and becoming pseudonymous. That's what I have done in the past couple of years. I used to keep my full name, location and some other personal information with my blogs but I found that it caused me a lot of personal problems with people who disagreed with my opinion. I'm not talking just standard internet trolling but NellaLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07247769132258539996noreply@blogger.com