tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post789799748035730911..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: Buddhist Relationships - A Few Comments on AttachmentNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-40807692139627864832011-09-25T11:51:30.536-07:002011-09-25T11:51:30.536-07:00Thanks Barbara for bringing Daido's teaching i...Thanks Barbara for bringing Daido's teaching into the picture. <br /><br />To others reading here, Daido's book Eight Gates of Zen is a great primer on Zen practice, if you haven't already read it.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-86174250450781256342011-09-25T11:00:39.983-07:002011-09-25T11:00:39.983-07:00My first Zen teacher, Daido Loori, had a wonderful...My first Zen teacher, Daido Loori, had a wonderful way of explaining "attachment" that helped clarify it for me:<br /><br />In order to have attachment, you need two things -- an "attacher," and an object to attach to. As long as we relate to others within this self-other dichotomy, we're attaching. When we thoroughly perceive that the dichotomy is a sham, it changes the Barbara O'Brienhttp://buddhism.about.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-69192591467327335682011-09-23T08:43:52.168-07:002011-09-23T08:43:52.168-07:00Carole,
I agree with Palmo. And have been watchi...Carole, <br /><br />I agree with Palmo. And have been watching where the direction of interest turns within myself a lot more lately. <br /><br />Blue, <br /><br />That's a really interesting point. And I think that actually, that "being in love" experience with a romantic lover is a really poor comparison with awakening. So often, "being in love" is riddled with distortedNathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-71450608615783121352011-09-23T07:59:50.758-07:002011-09-23T07:59:50.758-07:00I struggle with many Buddhist discussions about lo...I struggle with many Buddhist discussions about love because I feel as though they take “being in love” at least initially, as a given. So often I read being ‘awake’ compared to the first feelings of being ‘in love’ in its newness and excitement etc.<br /><br />_________________<br /><a href="http://www.bluefengshuivariety.com" rel="nofollow">feng shui products</a>Bluefengshui2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/03486694495732946285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-42313757475021376292011-09-22T12:45:33.119-07:002011-09-22T12:45:33.119-07:00Just relistened to a Tenzin Palmo talk at Tricycle...Just relistened to a Tenzin Palmo talk at Tricycle last night in which she said something like, "if we are interested in the other person's happiness (lover, child, parent) then that is love, if we are mainly interested in our own happiness, then that is not love. It's an interesting way to look at relationships. Who's happiness am I interested in here (in this action, in thiszendotstudiohttp://www.zendotstudio.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com