tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post986679565852331824..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: Hope Isn't Really a Buddhist TeachingNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-51015113281055345102015-04-19T07:54:16.990-07:002015-04-19T07:54:16.990-07:00Hi Nathan,
For myself, there's a 'good...Hi Nathan,<br /><br />For myself, there's a 'good' hope and a 'bad' hope. What are they?<br /><br />Good hope is sometimes called confidence. Its' like using 'hope' as verb but without objects - I hope. Period.<br /><br />Bad hope is using this word as a verb plus complements. "I hope this" or "I hope that". That's bad because it's falseIvãhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06952105560152899281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-16816061398068663042014-10-28T12:07:21.696-07:002014-10-28T12:07:21.696-07:00I still use the "I hope..." construction...I still use the "I hope..." construction a lot of the time because people are familiar with it. If anyone has a replacement that works well, I'd also love to hear it. Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-23230326401474676472014-10-28T07:59:28.608-07:002014-10-28T07:59:28.608-07:00A very interesting discussion which I came across ...A very interesting discussion which I came across looking for a new way to greet someone semi formally in writing.<br /><br />I used to use a combination of 'I hope you are well' or 'I hope you are doing good'<br /><br />I'm wondering if there is a better way to greet someone without using the word hope. I've begun to use 'I trust you are doing good' but it sounds IJ Finoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-57545966221976185902014-01-02T12:24:02.832-08:002014-01-02T12:24:02.832-08:00I was watching a documentary on deserts and mirage...I was watching a documentary on deserts and mirages and it got me wondering that hope doesn't seem to fit in with my beliefs about Buddhism or my life. hope seems to me a set up for a disappointment. if you accept your life and live each moment as best, kind and as compassionate as you can be then why hope for anything else. life will unfold regardless and if you can flow with kindness and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-8417121489550236412012-06-26T04:18:39.954-07:002012-06-26T04:18:39.954-07:00Hopelessness is my favorite topic :)
About two ...Hopelessness is my favorite topic :)<br /><br /><br /><br />About two years ago, my teacher passed this on to me: <br /><br />"I’m not, for example, going to say I hope I eat something tomorrow. I just will. I don’t hope I take another breath right now, nor that I finish writing this sentence. I just do them. On the other hand, I do hope that the next time I get on a plane, it doesn’t crash.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-31204986260480843622012-06-24T20:32:08.705-07:002012-06-24T20:32:08.705-07:00I really like how you distinguish hope from optimi...I really like how you distinguish hope from optimism. I've always considered myself to be optimistic and that sometimes seems like a bad thing (as in not realistic). When optimism (or clinging to unrealistic hope) is just a way bolstering delusion it's hard to see anything good in it. The awareness of 'boundless opportunity' however, is a great way of finding strength in adversityMaxhttp://new-worlds.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-40167894376510691842012-06-23T05:52:45.600-07:002012-06-23T05:52:45.600-07:00David, I sincerely wish you all the best. Cancer h...David, I sincerely wish you all the best. Cancer has taken close family members from me. I don't know what I would need to make it through something like that, but odds are hope would be part of it.<br /><br />Still, I stand behind my words above. It's often been when I have given up hope for a different reality and fully accepted what is, that something shifts. This isn't the same Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-2056287590018225472012-06-22T18:34:53.280-07:002012-06-22T18:34:53.280-07:00Hi Nathan,
I think we had this discussion severa...Hi Nathan,<br /> <br />I think we had this discussion several years ago, and once again, I have to disagree with you. I can respect your feeling about the word “hope.” But I feel that hope is the very essence of the Four Noble Truths, for without the possibility of understanding the cause of suffering, and then having the confidence that suffering can be overcome, life would just be a long, Davidhttp://theendlessfurther.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-70519742728036188322012-06-22T16:19:57.032-07:002012-06-22T16:19:57.032-07:00I agree with all of you that hope can be a skillfu...I agree with all of you that hope can be a skillful means in certain situations. <br /><br />I can recall, for example, times when I have refrained from, or delayed, saying or doing something because it felt cruel to deflate someone's hope at the time.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-40375145896852148012012-06-22T11:18:30.785-07:002012-06-22T11:18:30.785-07:00I think hope is a kind of skillful means. I see i...I think hope is a kind of skillful means. I see it as similar to forgiveness. If we are really looking at the true nature of things, then I think there hope and forgiveness don't even really make sense - they are too limited and small and, ultimately, dualistic. But to consider this is very hard work and I think a lot of people are not ready to take that on. So we have hope and Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06391086267728343589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-84623785592846016002012-06-22T10:49:08.731-07:002012-06-22T10:49:08.731-07:00Hope can "help" us endure our suffering ...Hope can "help" us endure our suffering rather than seeing and feeling it clearly, and changing.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-10722016481367578502012-06-22T10:42:03.982-07:002012-06-22T10:42:03.982-07:00Words can be so tricky. You ask a good question wh...Words can be so tricky. You ask a good question when you say what do you mean by hope? But can we ever really pin it down?<br /><br />I always remember Pema Chodron's comment that "we bounce back and forth between hope and fear" And in this context hope is not a helpful thing.<br /><br />And yet, and yet, I do believe it depends on the circumstances. If hope can somehow fortify ZenDotStudiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06051368546505731081noreply@blogger.com