tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post1867070750589563314..comments2023-09-21T09:49:28.326-07:00Comments on Fierce Dandelions: Power Abuse in Spiritual CommunitiesNathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-5510756880478481412010-05-02T07:38:31.449-07:002010-05-02T07:38:31.449-07:00Chong Go,
My community has developed an excellen...Chong Go, <br /><br />My community has developed an excellent code of conduct/grievance policy based on what happened, and also with guidance from leaders of sanghas that also had serious transgressions occur in the past. <br /><br />I think what's more important to me is ongoing conversations about how power dynamics can impact our practice in communities, and what a healthy teacher/student Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-67839534653865872702010-04-30T17:49:16.390-07:002010-04-30T17:49:16.390-07:00"But it seems smarter to me to instill direct..."But it seems smarter to me to instill direct discussions and teachings about holding one's own in a student/teacher relationship before scandals occur. To prevent them."<br /><br />Hi Nathan,<br /> Are you thinking about something like a statement/code of ethical conduct given to newcomers? One that would include what's appropriate, or not, from other students as well as the Chong Go Sunimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03428074464904163726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-69697219975778634772010-04-30T05:43:36.686-07:002010-04-30T05:43:36.686-07:00Good post on an important topic.
My school went t...Good post on an important topic.<br /><br />My school went through this in the 1980's, before my time. Although I wasn't there, I am close with one of the people directly involved, and have heard a diversity of views on what happened. (It's a bit like "Rashomon," so many viewpoints.)<br /><br />One thing that emerges, overlapping the various views and opinions after the Algernonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01698040927871199780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-92165461467412645432010-04-29T07:37:35.126-07:002010-04-29T07:37:35.126-07:00Hi Justin,
First of all, sorry to hear about your...Hi Justin,<br /><br />First of all, sorry to hear about your past abusive relationship, and glad that you've taken some wisdom from it.<br /><br />"This grabs me a bit... Because I wonder, 'how does "that person" get to be in power'? Going back to your relationship example, it seems that both parties exchange power here and there, unless one party mistakenly gives and Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920234350446745482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-74820481665702180142010-04-29T06:00:10.483-07:002010-04-29T06:00:10.483-07:00Great post. Thanks for exploring this difficult s...Great post. Thanks for exploring this difficult subject with a balanced perspective.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08580167670240726988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-32971777911923924542010-04-28T22:32:36.176-07:002010-04-28T22:32:36.176-07:00Excellent post, Nathan. Much to chew on, from a va...Excellent post, Nathan. Much to chew on, from a variety of perspectives. I'd like to grab 3 quotes from your post and ask further questions.<br /><br />"It was kind of like the way a cracked romantic relationship ends: neither side has owned completely their part in the destruction yet, but both realize it's time to stop adding to the misery."<br /><br />Good; we see that we Buddhist_philosopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14246929532585980356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741227658356358863.post-45530064761874198112010-04-28T19:04:11.983-07:002010-04-28T19:04:11.983-07:00Tough issue, Nathan.
I've thought a lot abou...Tough issue, Nathan.<br /> I've thought a lot about this too. One of the main things I feel is that as practitioners, it's disasterous to try to make someone else our savior. Or to paraphrase my teacher, to abandon our own, inherent upright center, and chase after outer things, whether material or emotional. <br />"No matter how beautiful a flower on someone else's tree might Chong Go Sunimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03428074464904163726noreply@blogger.com