Barry over at Ox Herding has a short, but sweet post about forms of second guessing and efforts to re-write the past.
I've noticed that three words play an important role in this storytelling:
Woulda Shoulda Coulda
You probably also have some experience with this line of thinking.
For sure I have. The thing is that all of these attempts to rewrite the past never seem to make it feel any better. It's like some part of me knows that it's a lie, a story, a piece of cake that doesn't really offer a deep satisfaction to whatever hunger I have.
Reviewing your history can offer great insights. Sometimes, you might even discover that what you thought happened actually didn't.
Trying to rewrite the same history, however subtly, is something entirely different. It's not only about a lack of acceptance, but it also is a sure fire way to steer yourself away from the truth of your life.